ROMY: What the hell is your problem, Christie? Why are you always such a nasty bitch?
I mean, yeah, okay, Michele and I did make up some lame story.
We only did it because we wanted you to treat us like human beings.
But you know what we finally realized? We don't care if you like us. Because we don't like you. You're a bad person with an ugly heart, and we don't give a flying fuck what you think.
--"Romy and Michele's High School Reunion"
Dear Guess Who,
Suck my five inch pointy stiletto, you malignant narcissists.
p.p.s. i don't actually own any such shoes. And I've never given a blowjob (to a flesh phallus, anyway) in my life.
And it -still- doesn't say one fucking goddam thing about my feminism either way. Anymore than flossing my teeth every morning or eating enough fiber to take a decent size shit does.
Here's my feminist manifesto. It's very simple, really.
When a woman, an actual, real live woman, not an abstraction, is standing in front of you with an opened vein? And you have nothing to offer her but bile and ideology,
time and again;
preferring to bask in the glow of your adoring sycophants to actually taking a tiny dose of your own medicine, much less offering so much as a drop of real compassion or hope or strength or support to people who desperately need it;
You're not a feminist.
You're a bargain basement televangelist.
and maybe, just maybe,
A bad person, with an ugly heart.
Wrap it in whatever fishwrap of an ideology you like. It still stinks.
p.p.p.s. People aren't hypocrites if they don't even try to live up to YOUR standards. Which are not, by the way, synonymous with "feminist standards."
What they are, is HEALTHY.
p.p.p.p.s I'm tempted to post it over there, but for the sake of sanity (my own among others), i'm restraining myself. I just want to respond to this, by a millie:
" Why is it that that no one will respond to ANY post about gays and lesbians who believe themselves to have had soley homosexual attraction, despite zero exposure to or knowledge of anything other than heterosexuality?"
Just guessing: because, for some strange reason, perhaps, no one who identifies as such feels at home enough to post over there. Even though, as noted, plenty of heterosexual women as well as "political lesbians" really relate to endless kvetching about the ev0ls of high heels and blowjobs. Personally I've never met another lesbian in my life who's been -quite- so concerned with cock, whether in delight or disgust, and yet never once seems to express any actual desire toward, you know, other women. But whatever; there's been quite enough "realness" flaming for one day, and as i've said, ultimately, the "coldhearted shit" part concerns me a lot more than what anyone does or doesn't do in bed.
As alluded to in my post of just last night, however: I am, if not a Kinsey Six, someone who does feel that her sexuality was...
well, put it this way: it's complicated.
I have no idea wrt genetics and such. I think it differs from person to person. My take on the "it's a choice" business is that as far as civil rights go, it's a red herring, albeit arguably one that's been of some limited use in realpolitik terms. But that's really tangential to my point here.
It is precisely because I struggled with my very real, wherever their origin, -my- desires, for so long, that it fills me with so much rage when someone who paints herself as an ally turns around and does the very thing that was the source of my misery to other people. Even if I as a supposedly "correct" whatever-it-is am not currently the target.
Because I have been, and I know very well how it feels.
And further, I am -well- aware that when someone is bound and determined to make a sport out of scapegoating, it doesn't matter if I'm not the one on her hotseat -today;- I can be just as easily tomorrow, and probably will be.
And no, I for one do not find the experience so refreshing, "really makes you think."
Because I've been to that rodeo, and it sucks, no matter how you're rationalizing it.
You know what'd really be radical? Kindness. Acceptance. Eros.
And no, I don't live up to my own standard there, either.
But I'm not gonna beat myself up for it, either;
because i know that one too well, as well.