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I surprise how much effort you put to create such a wonderful informative website.Kitchen Benchtopshttp://www.kaystone.com.au/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-56889330441087980602011-12-04T13:47:07.876-05:002011-12-04T13:47:07.876-05:00I totally agree with the article.I totally agree with the article.muebles mostoleshttp://www.muebles-en-mostoles.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-18960747546950605672007-03-02T01:07:00.000-05:002007-03-02T01:07:00.000-05:00Awesome post, and sorry I missed it when it was fi...Awesome post, and sorry I missed it when it was first out. Much to chew on with all this. <BR/><BR/>You know what about 1/3 of my personal library consists of? Books about the sex industry (from Sheila Jeffreys to Wendy McElroy), and books that are variations on the theme of "the [sometimes real, sometimes so-called] evil that women do." Books on women in hate groups. Books on lesbian battering. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-1162663510304872952006-11-04T13:05:00.000-05:002006-11-04T13:05:00.000-05:00The thanatos thing might just be me, my seriously ...The thanatos thing might just be me, my seriously self destructive period coincided with my worst periods of anorexia. And of course my most self destructive period also coincided with my "It's not self harm, it's martial arts!" period, where the line between self hating flagellation and anorexia was infinitesimal. It might just be me, but there was that element of "bad(fat) person, bad(fat) Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-1162609864010741892006-11-03T22:11:00.000-05:002006-11-03T22:11:00.000-05:00RM, i just now read your "Anorexia is Patriarchal"...RM, i just now read your "Anorexia is Patriarchal" post back at PAB. <BR/><BR/>i had a brief period when i was a kid, don't know if it could technically be called anorexia as it was before puberty and i stopped it eventually more or less on my own (a doctor told me i might -not- hit puberty at this rate, and from then on i started obsessing about that instead, and eating again). <BR/><BR/>but belledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-1162595619975597302006-11-03T18:13:00.000-05:002006-11-03T18:13:00.000-05:00On the whole, it's just totally awesome when someo...On the whole, it's just totally awesome when someone else -tells- you they understand your experience better than you do...and won't take "no" for an answer. Even better when you never actually asked, and the person hasn't the wit of a sparrow and has a voice (aural or otherwise) like a drill.belledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-1162584378189861162006-11-03T15:06:00.000-05:002006-11-03T15:06:00.000-05:00"Can't live with yourself, can't live without your..."Can't live with yourself, can't live without yourself..."belledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-1162559198193205532006-11-03T08:06:00.000-05:002006-11-03T08:06:00.000-05:00What do you mean by "thanatos-esque neurosis?" I ...What do you mean by "thanatos-esque neurosis?" I mean, i know what "thanatos" is, i'm just wondering what this means for you in this context. you see this as an urge toward death?belledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-1162559098080125602006-11-03T08:04:00.000-05:002006-11-03T08:04:00.000-05:00>Well it's a mental disorder, so broad "THIS is wh...>Well it's a mental disorder, so broad "THIS is what THAT is about" formulas don't always work too well, there's an element of control issues in there, but there's also social identity issues, as well as plain old thanatos-esque neurosis, social-phobias and crys for help, and out of that mess of interconnecting issues each eating disorder sufferer is a unique and individual snowflake.<BR/><BR/>belledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-1162558054233571482006-11-03T07:47:00.000-05:002006-11-03T07:47:00.000-05:00it feels very, I dunno, right angles and metallic ...<I>it feels very, I dunno, right angles and metallic surfaces and grinding gears.</I><BR/><BR/>Well it's basically a mish mash of sociology and economics so dryness is a given in the language, but I find the way it tends to focus on relationships between things useful, personally marx is a bit too bourgie really, so I tend to use him as a jumping off point for political algebra, if "proletariat" R. Mildredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00932355251730998294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-1162531099535538172006-11-03T00:18:00.000-05:002006-11-03T00:18:00.000-05:00True. And I'm not with her anymore anyway. The m...True. And I'm not with her anymore anyway. The main problem I generally have, I think, is not as much in the recognizing of problems (although I can be just as blind as the next person to my flaws, if I've a mind to), but not having a place to go after that. So often it's like, "okay, here we have a problem. Now what do I do about it?" And I don't know. Which, it has so far appeared, no oneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-1162527098983431552006-11-02T23:11:00.000-05:002006-11-02T23:11:00.000-05:00lilcollegegirl: i'm trying to say this without co...lilcollegegirl: i'm trying to say this without coming off Helpy Helperton or prying wrt your therapy, (which i may already have done); but: it's all part of the process, that, you know. i mean, the whole point is that you're not able to articulate a lot of this stuff at first...<BR/><BR/>anyway i asked because actually i wonder myself, sometimes, what people mean when they say "you need to getbelledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-1162526834133934632006-11-02T23:07:00.000-05:002006-11-02T23:07:00.000-05:00I only read about three quarters of the Levy book,...I only read about three quarters of the Levy book, but am fairly certain she doesn't touch on Marxism at all. there's a lot she doesn't touch on, tbh; it's not exactly the deepest analysis i've ever read.<BR/><BR/>I think I see kind of where you're going with the theory. i guess for me the language of materialism/Marxism doesn't really translate so well when it comes to this shit. it's a bit, belledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-1162526276983467442006-11-02T22:57:00.000-05:002006-11-02T22:57:00.000-05:00Well, she probably would have if I'd seemed at all...Well, she probably would have if I'd seemed at all open to the idea, which I wasn't, and also I started crying tears of several things, including sadness, frustration, all my stored-up feelings of helplessness, topped off with a helping of hate (for self and others), so then she had to both calm me down and try to figure out what was with that, in which I also wasn't particularly helpful, since IAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-1162513976891585712006-11-02T19:32:00.000-05:002006-11-02T19:32:00.000-05:00"As it happens, in my case the angry one is/was Mo..."As it happens, in my case the angry one is/was Mom, the more passive, gentle one is Dad. I expect this also has something to do with the difference between my perception of gender relations and those of some of the more traditional "patriarchy-blamers."<BR/><BR/>Just ... yes. I was like this, too. Mum was physically violent a lot of the time, also (towards Dad more than me). So much internalisedarielladrakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15423331373323391522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-1162495637018112942006-11-02T14:27:00.000-05:002006-11-02T14:27:00.000-05:00Okay, the little theory I've been working on jumps...Okay, the little theory I've been working on jumps off of the idea that "(presumably heterosexual) sex is work (in the marxist sense) women do for men" and develops it properly (I'm so incredibly behind on my feminist literature though, so do tell me if this has been said by someone better before - I haven't even read ariel levy yet).<BR/><BR/>Okay so sex is work right? So is htere "sexual R. Mildredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00932355251730998294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-1162488067853576592006-11-02T12:21:00.000-05:002006-11-02T12:21:00.000-05:00did she give you any specific suggestions as to -h...did she give you any specific suggestions as to -how- to "deal with anger?"belledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-1162488021520795992006-11-02T12:20:00.000-05:002006-11-02T12:20:00.000-05:00anyway, i have often thought that for a lot of wom...anyway, i have often thought that for a lot of women and other marginalized folks in these-here sociopolitical communities, it might do some good to just set the damn theory aside for a little while and start some good old fashioned assertiveness training. <BR/><BR/>The therapy and particularly self-help movement that got really popular in the 70's and on is held in a lot of contempt, I know, belledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-1162487632413442342006-11-02T12:13:00.000-05:002006-11-02T12:13:00.000-05:00Ooops. I meant the comment about "poisonous pedag...Ooops. I meant the comment about "poisonous pedagogy."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-1162487498822514152006-11-02T12:11:00.000-05:002006-11-02T12:11:00.000-05:00Hee, that last bit sounds almost exactly like what...Hee, that last bit sounds almost exactly like what my last therapist told me. And then she said, "you have to learn to deal with anger."...And then I told her I wasn't angry, just sad that I hated my dad so much when I realized now that he does and did love me. *Sigh.* Talk about being an unhelpful patient.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-1162487225494697542006-11-02T12:07:00.000-05:002006-11-02T12:07:00.000-05:00I have an ambivalent attitude toward anger. I gre...I have an ambivalent attitude toward anger. I grew up with one very critical and explosive parent, and another who rarely if ever expresses any anger at all, and tends to curl up and disappear during fights. I'm an only child, so I got to play all the roles, I think. I never did feel terribly safe--and I felt less safe in school, I was the eternal outsider, or it felt that way, at least belledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-1162486909024447052006-11-02T12:01:00.000-05:002006-11-02T12:01:00.000-05:00*nod* I think that happens a lot, yes. And i als...*nod* I think that happens a lot, yes. <BR/><BR/>And i also think that this is something that needs to be taken much more seriously into account in political activism: peoples' personal experiences of anger. Particularly when it's been used as a weapon of abuse. Because, well, one, I think for a lot of people, activism is the first chance they ever get to vent some of that rage. And while somebelledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-1162481731422157962006-11-02T10:35:00.000-05:002006-11-02T10:35:00.000-05:00I'm going to agree with a lot of what lilcollegegi...I'm going to agree with a lot of what lilcollegegirl said about anger and how it can get internalised when one grows up in abusive environments.<BR/><BR/>For me, it gets tied up with self-worth and loss, a lot, too. Anger is often about losing something, and for me it was always about losing something I deserved. Having grown up with very little concept of self-worth, there wasn't much I felt arielladrakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15423331373323391522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-1162478894333600002006-11-02T09:48:00.000-05:002006-11-02T09:48:00.000-05:00>And what it comes down to for me is that previous...>And what it comes down to for me is that previous to this, I pretty much had to endure, because when crap happens to you as a kid, and it comes from either people who have authority over you or because you're little and facing down people with possible poor impulse control is a bad idea (which I am, physically, and was even more so in K-12), there's not much else you can do about it. And I belledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.com