tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post1269410740280501428..comments2024-03-28T03:15:55.088-04:00Comments on Fetch me my axe: Continuing the riff...Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-2736463389679051332007-06-12T20:09:00.000-04:002007-06-12T20:09:00.000-04:00OMG-dess, BelleDamme, exactly.I transitioned only ...OMG-dess, BelleDamme, exactly.<BR/><BR/>I transitioned only recently, having spent two years identifying as genderqueer, and identifying as a trans woman only for a year. And I've spent so much of that time just angry all the time, separating myself from the non-trans community as much as I could.<BR/><BR/>I fought tooth-and-nail with my parents, meeting their every question with hostility, Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-29117714251202335872007-06-12T14:17:00.000-04:002007-06-12T14:17:00.000-04:00but some people are trying. really trying.Indeed.I...<I>but some people are trying. really trying.</I><BR/><BR/>Indeed.<BR/><BR/><I>I don't think anyone was obligated to teach me</I><BR/><BR/>Well yes, that's the trouble, the people who cry loudest about wanting to learn give no indication that they're actually willing to <B>listen</B> to anything anyone says - the point isn't to actually get education from the POC, the point is to control the R. Mildredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00932355251730998294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-55396281009366904052007-06-12T14:00:00.000-04:002007-06-12T14:00:00.000-04:00Yeesh. All this analysis. Why can't people just ac...<I>Yeesh. All this analysis. Why can't people just accept that I have a patiently curious soul?</I> Mandos<BR/><BR/>And the question you were most curious to have answered was:"Can I make it right into the middle of this potentially murderous pride of radfems, get the Queen to eat a sugar-lump out of my hand, and then tip-toe out of danger before my presence has been really noticed."<BR/><BR/>It Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-40705183183420196642007-06-12T13:52:00.000-04:002007-06-12T13:52:00.000-04:00I do agree that the resistance to change is a stro...I do agree that the resistance to change is a strong motivation - I found working with a PFLAG group that adding Intersex and Two Spirit provoked a reaction from the parents of gay children - a sort of "we are the 'real' organization" and jokes at how they are letting "Anyone in the alphabet in now" - and public jokes about intersex people during lectures and such - and this was PFLAG - you know,Elizabeth McClunghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03627373214555333537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-47510935317811656592007-06-12T12:31:00.000-04:002007-06-12T12:31:00.000-04:00"Let it be a challenge to you.""Let it be a challenge to you."belledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-83920983878991734182007-06-12T11:25:00.000-04:002007-06-12T11:25:00.000-04:00Yeesh. All this analysis. Why can't people just ...Yeesh. All this analysis. Why can't people just accept that I have a patiently curious soul?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-90473105728400525262007-06-12T10:46:00.000-04:002007-06-12T10:46:00.000-04:00Only here. On Reclusive Leftist it seemed more lik...Only here. On Reclusive Leftist it seemed more like he was bottoming from the bottom.Alon Levyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12195377309045184452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-4257057047003477292007-06-12T09:01:00.000-04:002007-06-12T09:01:00.000-04:00Mandos, you're a masochist when it comes to dealin...<I>Mandos, you're a masochist when it comes to dealing with radicals</I> Alon<BR/><BR/>Yeah, but he tops from the bottom, hadn't you noticed?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-20522158917699438442007-06-12T00:17:00.000-04:002007-06-12T00:17:00.000-04:00Internet Race Theory =========Sounds like dope sen...Internet Race Theory <BR/>=========<BR/><BR/>Sounds like dope senor level undergrad libral arts course.M.Dot.https://www.blogger.com/profile/05113752779973426025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-43183120816094871282007-06-11T23:41:00.000-04:002007-06-11T23:41:00.000-04:00RE: Much as I'm usually loathe to post song lyrics...RE: Much as I'm usually loathe to post song lyrics for Deeply Felt Stuff, I've often thought of these by <A HREF="http://www.lyricsfreak.com/p/paul+simon/something+so+right_20105966.html" REL="nofollow">Paul Simon:</A><BR/><BR/><I>When something goes wrong<BR/>I'm the first to admit it<BR/>I'm the first to admit it<BR/>And the last one to know<BR/><BR/>When something goes right<BR/>Well it's belledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-28928078352469209122007-06-11T22:44:00.000-04:002007-06-11T22:44:00.000-04:00This was an excellent post, and something I think ...This was an excellent post, and something I think I'd do well to heed. Having gotten to that point of cynical burnout, perhaps it's time to step back and realise that diplomacy really has a place in building up a movement of allies.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-13579705897573887242007-06-11T21:37:00.000-04:002007-06-11T21:37:00.000-04:00Mandos, you're a masochist when it comes to dealin...Mandos, you're a masochist when it comes to dealing with radicals.Alon Levyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12195377309045184452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-63344622540506847002007-06-11T20:48:00.000-04:002007-06-11T20:48:00.000-04:00Truth to tell, i think that it's partly that--the ...<I>Truth to tell, i think that it's partly that--the repeated efforts with a particularly obstinate person or group--that actually leads to burnout more often than not. People pour a lot of investment into person or small group x, -sure- that this is the key to bridging the gap, that -if i can only break through to these people-, well, the skies will open and hosannas will play, and...</I><BR/><Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-55986355634106490022007-06-11T16:35:00.000-04:002007-06-11T16:35:00.000-04:00Yeah, the 2 cents from rage central I miss it when...Yeah, the 2 cents from rage central I miss it when I am all wired on pissed that good people are nice to me corner...<BR/><BR/>You know, I realize I go into almost every type of relationship with every person on the face of the planet expecting to get kicked in the teeth. It's happened enough to make me paranoid, and yes, it is safer and easier to expect that such things will happen.<BR/><BR/>Renegade Evolutionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17905949172886730262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-14617930613464815452007-06-11T16:09:00.001-04:002007-06-11T16:09:00.001-04:00I couldn't have said it better myself. Excellent...I couldn't have said it better myself. Excellent words!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-81364644279542955762007-06-11T16:09:00.000-04:002007-06-11T16:09:00.000-04:00Great post!I can totally understand why people don...Great post!<BR/><BR/>I can totally understand why people don't want to feel obliged to teach someone who doesn't get it, but I have to admit that if people hadn't taken the time to explain things to me, I might not have gotten "it" either. I don't think anyone was <I>obligated</I> to teach me- but having people who were willing to explain to me what their lives were like, and how they saw the Rex Libris https://www.blogger.com/profile/13666188771524753584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-49135031517213503282007-06-11T15:40:00.000-04:002007-06-11T15:40:00.000-04:00i'm so happy for this making the rounds after the ...i'm so happy for this making the rounds after the recent ugliness....<BR/><BR/>it warms my heart much more, there is time to shove a foot in someones ass and there is time to make someone an ally.... "this is going to hurt me much more than you".<BR/><BR/>i want people to understand... not for me but for them...Sassywhohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14604276739069071163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-7391341820174747522007-06-11T15:37:00.000-04:002007-06-11T15:37:00.000-04:00We all project more significance onto somebody or ...We all project more significance onto somebody or another than a coolly pragmatic appraisal would warrant. It’s a hazard of clinging to our situatedness, or reducing our situations to just one thing. And even when we do get it right, when it really <I>is</I> just about right now, there’s more than one way to be burned over & cynical. Intolerance of ambiguity lies beneath a lot of this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-33948604396981774402007-06-11T15:18:00.000-04:002007-06-11T15:18:00.000-04:00Continuing is such a good title for this post. Or ...Continuing is such a good title for this post. Or Triggering, or Remembering, or the Subconscious Solicits an Emotional Reaction.. would all work, no? <BR/><BR/>A little more self-awareness and ownership in the spirit of discovery on both sides of the fence would be beneficial. <BR/><BR/>I see what you're getting at.SallySunshinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17417077309361828475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-55300655843200468982007-06-11T15:00:00.000-04:002007-06-11T15:00:00.000-04:00Really good entry.I'm thinking along similar lines...Really good entry.<BR/><BR/><A HREF="http://transadvocate.com/sabrinastar/2007/06/11/the-personal-is-political/" REL="nofollow">I'm thinking along similar lines today.</A>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com