tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post6680306380581028564..comments2024-03-29T07:02:42.474-04:00Comments on Fetch me my axe: Oh, how much have I not missed thisUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-55686860550105944552009-02-24T12:21:00.000-05:002009-02-24T12:21:00.000-05:00I like that they're calling attention to the subtl...<I>I like that they're calling attention to the subtler forms of coercion, and the role that the larger culture plays in undermining women's ability to say "Yes" or "No" for themselves, but I do not agree that no woman can ever say "Yes" wholeheartedly and uncoercedly.</I><BR/><BR/>Oh no. I mean, that gets into angels-on-a-pin territory. And I too have had experiences that were fabulous, moar Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-138280052963685202009-02-24T00:28:00.000-05:002009-02-24T00:28:00.000-05:00'k, it's by a Willie Hewes, who released it for co...'k, it's by a <A HREF="http://williehewescomics.blogspot.com/2007/06/anti-gay-bingo.html" REL="nofollow">Willie Hewes,</A> who released it for common share use under the something or other, anyway.belledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-38508657702861271662009-02-24T00:26:00.000-05:002009-02-24T00:26:00.000-05:00oh, it's fine by me, I didn't invent it, sorry if-...oh, it's fine by me, I didn't invent it, sorry if--I should've linked back to where I found it, not sure who the author is at this point...I fail.belledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-31349993425067566562009-02-23T01:47:00.000-05:002009-02-23T01:47:00.000-05:00hey, welcome, Lindsay.hey, welcome, Lindsay.belledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-26506357070864931242009-02-22T22:37:00.000-05:002009-02-22T22:37:00.000-05:00Killjoy, my thoughts on these issues are probably ...Killjoy, my thoughts on these issues are probably fairly similar to yours.<BR/><BR/>I consider myself a radical feminist, mostly because radical-feminist theories about rape culture helped explain so many things for me.<BR/><BR/>I also agree 100% with you that consent can be extorted, wheedled, nagged, badgered or otherwise wrested from unwilling women. I have no problem with calling that rape, Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10860246538349067232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-85043653396919792332009-02-21T01:23:00.000-05:002009-02-21T01:23:00.000-05:00I...think there's no neat one-application-fits-all...I...think there's no neat one-application-fits-all way to resolve that, just to note that yeah, there are subtle forms of coercion and manipulation.<BR/><BR/>One problem with all these discussions online is people end up conflating the legal realm with the ethical one. Like, if it's not clear enough to be found someone was guilty of a specific crime in a court of law, there's nothing wrong with belledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-58416228547401165552009-02-20T09:04:00.000-05:002009-02-20T09:04:00.000-05:00Can I ask what may be a dumb question? One thing ...Can I ask what may be a dumb question? One thing that initially appealed to me about radfem theory was that it put a name on something I've experienced and a lot of my friends have also experienced -- namely, being manipulated or wheedled into giving consent, and having sexual experiences that were consensual, but unwanted and pretty miserable. And I've read lots of similar accounts from othersAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-45708055499480528142009-02-12T04:52:00.000-05:002009-02-12T04:52:00.000-05:00I had to look him up as well, although once I did ...I had to look him up as well, although once I did I then remembered people talking about this fairly recently: in the news last year/the year before, flared up at Ren's and so on at least once<BR/><BR/>http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Glenn_Marcus<BR/><BR/>basically they're not using him to bolster the out to lunch business about therapy so much as their idea that all BDSM practioners are like and/orbelledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-14274234229461088482009-02-11T15:11:00.000-05:002009-02-11T15:11:00.000-05:00Nick: yes, I do believe that is what she meant to...Nick: yes, I do believe that is what she meant to say. not too fundie. y'know, corporal punishment is great, too, as long as you don't ever end up eroticizing it or anything. <BR/><BR/>(yes yes I know, radical vegan ecofem, no doubt against corporal punishment and all cruelty--hell, I think she's against 'breeding' in the first place, so, problem solved)belledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-50987042778158417662009-02-11T14:27:00.000-05:002009-02-11T14:27:00.000-05:00Wow... that is almost exactly word-for-word what H...Wow... that is almost exactly word-for-word what Howard Stern once said. I mean, <I>exactly!</I><BR/><BR/>Hilarious coincidence, huh?Daisy Deadheadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17993200276152025235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-75435326990610817482009-02-11T06:44:00.000-05:002009-02-11T06:44:00.000-05:00Does this obsession with the exact composition of ...Does this obsession with the exact composition of a turd rise to the level of a fetish, do you think?<BR/><BR/>Also, did she seriously mean to suggest that the world was a better place when people saw their sexual differences as fuckedupness that they needed "therapy" for (scare quotes 'cause I'm not sure how therapeutic it would actually be) than now that there's some self-acceptance going on?Nick Kiddlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08157667039265611431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-36451929319998638242009-02-11T02:42:00.000-05:002009-02-11T02:42:00.000-05:00...and it suddenly occurs to me to wonder how much......and it suddenly occurs to me to wonder how much I might have contributed to Reclusive Leftist's rating there, what with all the links and PUMA ranting here and at PPW.<BR/><BR/>well, anyway,<BR/><BR/>"you're welcome."belledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-17951766718284928472009-02-11T01:15:00.000-05:002009-02-11T01:15:00.000-05:00also--yeah, I dunno, wrt the guy you're talking ab...also--yeah, I dunno, wrt the guy you're talking about. I mean, first of all, sure, totally it doesn't sound like you'd be a good match, with him. and maybe he really isnt being very conscious or healthy about his desires. lots of people aren't, for sure.<BR/><BR/>but, truth is, some people do get off on the "dirty" aspect of it, and you know, as long as they're aware that that just is what it belledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-33664587530914166762009-02-11T01:09:00.000-05:002009-02-11T01:09:00.000-05:00well, no, respectfully: there's -observing- that (...well, no, respectfully: there's -observing- that (other) people hold that view, which is what you're doing; and then there's simply embracing that idea wholesale and uncritically onesownself. I mean, she's not just the president of that club, she's also a member, know what I'm saying? <BR/><BR/>and, yeah, sorry, use of the word "faggots" (esp. in the context she did there) automatically erases belledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-70589357510640591582009-02-11T01:00:00.000-05:002009-02-11T01:00:00.000-05:00To give that argument the absolute ultimate little...To give that argument the absolute ultimate little bit of slack that it really doesn't deserve... I do know a guy who has expressed that his great fondness for anal sex comes largely from how 'dirty' it is and how awesome it is that a woman would 'let him degrade her like that'. Dude's a Catholic with a whole lot of repressed/rebel-against-repression sexuality issues. <BR/><BR/>I don't know that Falynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15333605189090246488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-48951525882500977302009-02-11T00:45:00.000-05:002009-02-11T00:45:00.000-05:00they're fookin hateful eejits, that's all I know o...they're fookin hateful eejits, that's all I know or carebelledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-66289620392956061522009-02-11T00:43:00.000-05:002009-02-11T00:43:00.000-05:00I know I shouldn't be doing this, self-identity an...I know I shouldn't be doing this, self-identity and all that, but I have to ask:<BR/><BR/>bonobobabe and delphyne, are you men?<BR/><BR/>cos you sure know how to hate on women with the best of 'em.<BR/><BR/>"feminists", pffft.GallingGallahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08241627397789129041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-16133813764682626052009-02-11T00:42:00.000-05:002009-02-11T00:42:00.000-05:00I have to admit I'd forgotten who he was, till I w...I have to admit I'd forgotten who he was, till I wiki'd. but, yeah. Fursuits: Glenn Marcus. Fursuits: Glenn Marcus. <BR/><BR/>not to forget of course TEH ANAL SECKS O NOEZ<BR/><BR/>i mean! of COURSE "consent" isn't valid! no sane woman would ever do such things, because they're inherently filthy and nasty! clearly, therefore any "consent" is meaningless. QED and duh.belledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-72033668109362632322009-02-11T00:39:00.000-05:002009-02-11T00:39:00.000-05:00i heart how they're all like "bdsm people love gle...i heart how they're all like "bdsm people love gleen marcus"<BR/><BR/>uh, no we don't. i've heard all of one person defend him, ever, and i'm willing to bet you my left lung i wasn't the only person in the room who was severely creeped out at the time.Trinityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06846032433424879965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-72489798411994918132009-02-10T23:57:00.000-05:002009-02-10T23:57:00.000-05:00-snicker- i can't imagine -which- blogs they had ...-snicker- i can't imagine -which- blogs they had in mind...<BR/><BR/>and you know, whereas I was having a total peak experience over having been given a numerical affirmation by this outfit I wasn't aware of before and has had no concrete impact on my life or even my blog's traffic that I'm aware of, I am now crushed beyond measure to realize that Some People Do Not Approve, and shall go weep belledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-17164085882280068532009-02-10T21:12:00.000-05:002009-02-10T21:12:00.000-05:00Those comments remind me of the people angry over ...Those comments remind me of the people angry over the article on ranking feminist blogs based on links because there were blogs on there that were "anti-feminist" and therefore the ethodology must be suspect.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-10456834792139829432009-02-10T14:42:00.000-05:002009-02-10T14:42:00.000-05:00Oh don't get me started on her.Oh don't get me started on her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-86462365278666344392009-02-10T13:55:00.000-05:002009-02-10T13:55:00.000-05:00I was in the grocery store yesterday, and there wa...I was in the grocery store yesterday, and there was a clearance shelf with a bunch of Christmas decorations on it, along with several boxes of Trojan Magnum condoms. At the time, I just kind of went, "Wow, that's a really odd combination of products. Now, however, I want to go back and buy all the condoms, and when the checkout person gets kind of uncomfortable because I'm buying, like, twenty Evnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11248710048578201683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-66982429056318768842009-02-10T12:53:00.000-05:002009-02-10T12:53:00.000-05:00What the...I can't...but...and then...GAH.SO MUCH ...What the...I can't...but...and then...GAH.<BR/><BR/>SO MUCH WRONG. I can't stand it.Ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03062670395133324441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-64506567842466760942009-02-10T09:01:00.000-05:002009-02-10T09:01:00.000-05:00You should put "The courts are forcing gay rights ...You should put "The courts are forcing gay rights on us" and "Homosexuality is against Heartland values" somewhere on the Bingo chart.<BR/><BR/>On another note, the anti-anal sex statistic is just wrong. Feces are 10% bacteria by mass, which a condom can block, and a clean anus has surprisingly little fecal matter in it. But I guess we all knew that, apart from Bonobobabe...Alon Levyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12195377309045184452noreply@blogger.com