tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post6746594707905130175..comments2024-03-28T03:15:55.088-04:00Comments on Fetch me my axe: "What a beautiful baby. Where did you get her?"Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-66778130574741982842007-05-31T00:55:00.000-04:002007-05-31T00:55:00.000-04:00and so well-mannered and silent, tooheh. shades ...<I>and so well-mannered and silent, too</I><BR/><BR/>heh. shades of "Being There," there...belledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-72220539647377096402007-05-30T17:19:00.000-04:002007-05-30T17:19:00.000-04:00Here's anest of half-assed asumptions. My step-dau...Here's anest of half-assed asumptions. My step-daughter's dad is a Japanese citizen (and so was she until it fianlly lapsed or whatever). My white wife and my white self and the rest of us were living in the Ft. Lewis area. Just before Mother's Day one year we wemnt to buy some flowers for Mommy. <BR/><BR/>In those days almost all the florist shops in the area belonged to older Korean ladies, Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-91241002664530336622007-05-30T00:16:00.000-04:002007-05-30T00:16:00.000-04:00--hey, Nick!yeah, wouldn't you think?What's even m...--hey, Nick!<BR/><BR/>yeah, wouldn't you think?<BR/><BR/>What's even more disconcerting is when -adults- ask those questions; does give the answer to "where did those kids get the idea that it's okay to ask such things?" I suppose...belledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-23918617366539273552007-05-29T19:07:00.000-04:002007-05-29T19:07:00.000-04:00"They can't help being curious" strikes me as over..."They can't help being curious" strikes me as overly non-confrontational or something. I mean, you'd think their parents taught them that being curious is no excuse for asking complete strangers personal questions, wouldn't you? Yeah, maybe they can't help being curious but surely they can help being rude.Nick Kiddlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08157667039265611431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-7714092033370647732007-05-29T00:33:00.000-04:002007-05-29T00:33:00.000-04:00oh yes. the little dears, the little dears.oh yes. the little dears, the little dears.belledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-13651378113677725592007-05-29T00:28:00.000-04:002007-05-29T00:28:00.000-04:00The reaction of adults was always, for better or w...The reaction of adults was always, for better or worse, off my radar growing up -- it was the kids I had to deal with. And they tend not to have the "make nice" filter that adults try to make use of.baby221https://www.blogger.com/profile/10728908487350684688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-69870295158290069562007-05-28T22:49:00.000-04:002007-05-28T22:49:00.000-04:00Because my father and I don't particularly look re...<I>Because my father and I don't particularly look related, if we get overly familiar with each other in public, or are out having dinner together, we get some very funny looks--and it's not, "Where did you get her?" It's "tsk tsk, another May-December romance." And that? That's creepy.</I><BR/><BR/>Well, for the record, that happens to me, too, and I swear, my dad and I look alike. I can't go Veronicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17219976185183048440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-39567312177265913242007-05-27T22:30:00.000-04:002007-05-27T22:30:00.000-04:00My mom is visually white, although she is not (as ...My mom is visually white, although she is not (as was my oldest brother) - me, my father is Nigerian so I was a little brown child, which had rather more family consequences when I was young. For one thing, it had people who rented apartments to us when just seeing my mom and brother toss us right out on our ear when they caught sight of me.<BR/><BR/>Now that we are older, people just assume thatNanettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12369833497224107828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-75582816765630878132007-05-27T21:34:00.000-04:002007-05-27T21:34:00.000-04:00Yeah, that's fucked up, Ariella.This speaks to me,...Yeah, that's fucked up, Ariella.<BR/><BR/>This speaks to me, <I>hard</I>. My folks have always had to deal with this--even after we were teenagers, people would assume my mother was the help, or a maid, or a mail-order bride at best, and they'd whisper things about what a nice, charitable man my father was for adopting those poor Guatemalan children, or whatever.<BR/><BR/>They constantly boggledlittle lighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04348805482325856358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-17816865400641411512007-05-27T18:45:00.000-04:002007-05-27T18:45:00.000-04:00My mother dealt with this crap in the hospital aft...My mother dealt with this crap in the hospital after I was born. She was feeding the newborn me, and a nurse came in and accused the 'weird Chinese lady' of stealing some white woman's baby. It took my mother about ten minutes to convince the nurse to actually check the freaking hospital bracelets.arielladrakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15423331373323391522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18375173.post-63766474751465083802007-05-27T18:27:00.000-04:002007-05-27T18:27:00.000-04:00Really interesting and mirrors some of my experien...Really interesting and mirrors some of my experiences. The author was dead on that acknowledging the child in a deeply parental way out in public deflects some pretty stupid questions. Having done it for 14 years now, it's easier, I don't think about it and spend most of my anxiety over such things as worrying about how to comfort and educate my kids when they come home after being called "Me. Here. Right now.https://www.blogger.com/profile/17340392061207298502noreply@blogger.com