1) Say, in so many words, "you're not a feminist if you don't blahblah."
2) Back it up with heavy-handed shaming tactics and going LALALALALALA or -crickets- whenever someone else tries to actually explain her own position, often with a good deal of thought and care
3) When other person finally throws her hands up and goes, "nu, so all right, I'm not a feminist,"
4) Wring hands, cast eyes to the heavens and wonder,
Where O Where have all the feminists gone???
head. desk. bang.
Here's a hint for all y'all making this sort of argument out there who still might be reading:
At this point, even if you did have sole possession of The Truth, the One Way and One Way Only: it doesn't matter.
Because your communication skills--as in, listening and actual dialogue, not just making Pronouncements and whacking people over the head when they don't fall in line quickly enough--frankly, suck.
If all you want is the deep tingly satisfaction of waving the bloody martyr shirt, then by all means continue doing what you're doing.
If you actually want to change any minds? At least, in your favor? You are seriously doing a piss-poor job.
Or: pull the "my way or the highway" shit if you want to; just don't be surprised when a bunch of people take the highway, if only because they think it might be more likely to actually get them where they want to go.
This public service announcement was brought to you from the Department Of Huge, Honking Clues.