Friday, January 05, 2007

"Anatomy of a rape culture"

Ampersand of Alas, a Blog turns his lens on the men, and specifically the attitudes that might lead them to be part of that rape culture.

meanwhile, feministe, via blogger/commenter Tyra, resurrects an oldie but goodie: an imagined scenario if all crime victims were interrogated the same way rape victims were.

“Did you scream? Cry out?”
“No. I was afraid.”
“I see. Have you ever been held up before?”
“Have you ever given money away?”
“Yes, of course–”
“And did you do so willingly?”
“What are you getting at?”
“Well, let’s put it like this, Mr. Smith. You’ve given away money in the past–in fact, you have quite a reputation for philanthropy. How can we be sure that you weren’t contriving to have your money taken from you by force?”...


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Renegade Evolution said...


nezua said...

so very true. it's sickening. i've always said that if i were black or female in this society i'd be so fucking angry all the time i'd be absolutely impossible. i'm nearly there now, jeje...

my first real love when i was a teenager (lived with her for years) i met a few days after she was brutally raped by one of her "friends" and i was there with her as she went through so much aftermath...held her hand and sat with her as she poured it all out. she trusted me because i was a small guy, not like any of her previous friends or guys...she liked them really big.

months later, i realized she didnt really have so much of an accent as i thought, it was just entropied tongue muscles from having her jaw wired shut for so long after. he had smashed her jaw fucked up her whole face with bruises....she would walk around with a scissor in her back pocket in case she had to vomit and cut the rubber bands holding her teeth together. this was our young life together. i listened to all of her pain and story watched her physically heal, and was with her when the fucker plea bargained to ATTEMPTED rape and was out in two years for brutally raping her and beating hell out her-- a "friend" of his who was about half his size. the DA let him plea bargain cuz he was up for reeelction. even now it makes me cry. and they put her through that same shit of blaming her. blaming her.

if i were a woman in this nation i'd be one fucking furious human. i'd be at war every day i think. propz to las mujeres who can even stay sane in this joint.

Sage said...

I love that bit!

Anonymous said...

It was really interesting reading what Neuza said, actually. My friends and I have shared lots of whacky, cherpy accounts of sexual violence over the years, but I've never really heard "a boyfriend perspective."I know some boys are empathetic and compassionate out there, it's just weird reading about them.