(image ganked from here)
I swear to Christ, the next time I read some straight person handwringing about something or other that is the Deeply Important Item of the day--lipstick, blowjobs, high heels, goddam bloody pole dancing, you know, on account of it's "pandering to the male gaze" or "patriarchal standards" and we're just -concerned- with -what message it sends-, why o why does sexuality have to be like this? Why do -male/female- relations have to be like this, and say, isn't it a shame that there's no way for women in this pornified
(and but of course, WE DIDN'T MEAN YOU, IT ISN'T ADDRESSED TO YOU, YOU ARE STATISTICALLY INSIGNIFICANT AND WE FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE BROACHING THE SUBJECT OUR VERY OWN SELVES AND OF COURSE WE CAN'T ACTUALLY BROADEN OUR HORIZONS AND LISTEN TO SOMEONE WHO ISN'T ALREADY SAYING WHAT'S COZILY FAMILIAR)
--I'ma take that high heel, possibly rip that whole entire pole out of the ground, and guess what I'm gonna do with it?
Use your imagination.
You want to know why more women, especially more women who don't fit the status quo (which you yourself in no way represent, no pressure coming from -you,- o no), don't find their very own individual unique sexuality which still somehow fits into a paradigm that doesn't make you too uncomfortable, politically or aesthetically?
Because -every time we fucking try,- --some- happy asshole is coming down the pike to earnestly explain their -concern-. One way or another. If it's not religion, or what-will-the-neighbors-think, it's, you know, -political-, what does it all -mean-, dear, let's pick it apart, pick yourself apart, use your head and not your gonads (because of course they are mutually opposed), because -that- little process is of course in no way -patriarchal-, or -really fucking old.-
and, just hypothetically, mind, if anyone is -seriously- using the phrase "false consciousness" anymore, particularly about something like fucking -pole dancing-, I'm just going to point and -laugh.-
on edit: no, okay, a footnote, god knows I don't want to be -unfair,- so I open it up to you, gentle readers, and particularly all my queer readers, of whatever gender, gentle or otherwise:
Do you, or do you not, give a rat's ass about whether pole dancing is pandering to the patriarchy? Are you concerned about the male gaze? Do you believe in the male gaze? The female gaze? The gay gaze? Do gays have gaze? Do cats eat bats? Why is a stripper pole like a writing desk? You gonna eat that?
(Yes, those are totally and completely unbiased questions, I learned the technique from