"Sex Lady's Lesson: Save Yourself"
Jennifer Waters calls herself the Sex Lady. She likes to play matchmaker with Miss Tape and unwitting teen boys.
She slaps a piece of clear tape across Julian's arm. He winces.
"It's gonna hurt when I take it off," the lanky boy protests.
"But it's fine now, isn't it?" Ms. Waters whips back.
The puzzled looks on 18 eighth-graders at Carrollton's Arbor Creek Middle School brighten. The Sex Lady has made her point: Bad relationships hurt.
Ms. Waters, who was born to an unwed teen mother, teaches abstinence courses for free to schools and church groups across the country. The Allen, Lewisville and Princeton school districts have all brought her in, spurning larger and more costly programs.
"I love what I do because it's very personal to me," says Jennifer Waters, whose birth mother conceived her at 14.
Texas law requires sex education courses be abstinence-based. Some Lewisville middle schools had been contracting with Dallas-based nonprofit Aim for Success, which claims to be the nation's largest abstinence educator.
But not all schools could afford a price tag that averaged $2,000 per session.
...I don't wanna," Julian screeches before obeying. He cradles his arm as he sits down.
Ms. Waters shows Miss Tape to the class before calling up another boy, Spencer.
"We got some skin, Julian's hair," she says. "Spencer, did you get a good look at Miss Tape?
"You bond with Miss Tape," she says, slapping the strip onto Spencer's arm. "Everything Julian had has now been passed on to you."
... "A lot of times people think sex is just physical," Ms. Waters says. "But it's also very emotional. Do you think that could affect your bond in marriage? Even though you think relationships now don't matter, they do matter. It's not about age. It's about how committed you are. Marriage is the biggest commitment."
Her talk also includes lessons on sexually transmitted diseases, but she emphasizes the relationships that lead to sexual activity more than sex itself. She asks kids to describe the ideal partner and then tells them to date only "marriage material."
It was this hands-on – or rather, arms-on – animated message that sold the Lewisville Independent School District on Ms. Waters' 180 Degrees program. Earlier this month, district trustees approved Ms. Waters' curriculum for all 14 of its middle schools.
"It's really an effective, positive message on making good choices," said Kevin Fisher, Lewisville's secondary science director. "Some of the programs of this nature try to use scare tactics. This takes a different approach. Being free of charge is nice, too."