The nature of communication is that the communicator cannot be anything but a joke unless they understand that they will be conveying more information about themselves than the thing they are discussing. A little self-consciousness goes a long way....I can hear uncertainty at 30 paces. Overcompensation has a nasally sound to it.
Not a scrap of verbal communication escapes this. Writings on the Internets prove the rule by being almost a caricature of it rather than an exception. I am sure I know that the tone I give off is not only an exaggeration of my actual tone, but that certain traits are exaggerated to the point of fading out other traits, and this is fine. I work with it. A lot of bloggers are better at presenting a sense of a balanced psyche, and I know that I would enjoy drinking with them because of the knowledge I have, with no empirical evidence but no less factual for it, that 'solipsism' for them has a very specific, formal meaning that rarely touches the borders of their own personalities.
Let's cut to the chase. Empathy is more than being able to pat another person on the head and give them tears of commiseration in their tea. A sociopath with a few acting classes under their belt can do that. Empathy is one of the most vital operations of the human mind. Without it, most social interaction fails spectacularly, becomes nothing more than a comedy of errors told by idiots. The Internets are chock full of this mode of conversation, and I will dare not speculate as to the cause---not here, anyway, though I have my suspicions---but I will say that this belief holds a steady post in my head and will only be dislodged by a fabulous and contradictory display.
So maybe Mama didn't tell you, but I just did. My only additional advice would be this: there's a reason that the ones that ran their mouths got their asses kicked, and it had little to do with pecking orders or naked aggression, but simply that nature abhors a vacuum, and none more than one in a person's heart.
Sunday, March 04, 2007
Words of wisdom
You Are Here, oh yes you are.
Posted by belledame222 at 9:29 PM