Seriously, I know I've ranted about the "political lesbian" bullshit before, and even that much was probably more energy than it deserved, but honestly, this woman is doing my head in.
You're right that the sexuality is malleable argument has been used by the religious right against lesbians and gays, and that is not what I intend. But I don't know that misuse of a theory necessarily makes the theory wrong, you know? I think many women have been trained to see certain people/behaviors/qualities as sexy or attractive, and I think we can re-train ourselves if we want to. I do not support re-training others against their will. I do not plan to enforce a Lesbian Retraining Effort. I've talked with a number of women, however, who are unhappy with their relationships with men and WISH they could be Lesbians, but feel they can't. The good news is that they CAN.
...Likewise, I think that women can begin to see the affections they share with other women as more central, and if they want, they can allow those affections to include sexual actions. I'm definitely NOT suggesting that a renegade band of Lesbian conversionists kidnap unsuspecting straight women and subject them to bizarre aversion therapy treatments.
As I said over there:
by the way: you know, these days the ex-gay folks don't tend to use aversion therapy or force people (adults, anyway) to their cause so much. They tend to rely instead on "we don't want to change anyone who doesn't want to change. We just want to help people who are unhappy with being gay. Spread the good news!"
You wanna know -why- they take that kinder, gentler tack these days?
It's not because they've suddenly become more tolerant or less hateful/ignorant/controlling.
It's because these days, their position is discredited and unpopular enough that -they can't get away with it otherwise.-
I leave you to consider all the implications of that, gentle readers.
And let's not even get into such gems as:
My apologies - I should have said "transgender/transsexual politics" or "transgender/transsexual choices" or "transgender/transsexual movements" I am not anti-people, but I am opposed to some choices people make.
Gee, now, where have I heard sentiments like that one before? -thinkthinkthink-