Besides the yeah DUH guy's a rapist, throw the goddam book at him aspect, I mean. What does it all mean, dear?
you know, I mentally link it with repulso-boy's "I fucked a fat girl on purpose" excrement (as was circulating yesterday).
and the Duke case.
people who wring their hands about the dirty shocking wrongness of it all--I mean the faux-SEXXXY/pornstitution/what have you part of it-- are missing the goddam point.
two, actually, two goddam points.
one is that these little shits are entitlement monsters; expressing their rage at whatever emotional need wasn't filled by all that material "privilege" on the targets they figured, correctly, they were most likely to get away with abusing.
the other is, as people have said here 'n' there, my god, this is all so fucking sad. all this pent-up energy over a few exposed breasts? all these half-shamed thrills and titillation? in a healthy world, these tapes wouldn't sell because no one would CARE; my god, half-blitzed women coyly flashing their boobies and ineptly making out, ooohhh. ahhhh. Seriously, how lame. How timid. How juvenile. How dull. Who gives a crap?
Well, a lot of people give enough of a crap to buy this shit, apparently. Which tends to suggest that for whatever reason, this sad, tame little display of "wildness" is a thrilling taboo for a lot of people. Still.
Might I suggest that millenia's worth of (patriarchal) repression miiiiiiiiight just have something to do with this state of affairs?
It's so warped, see, that
1) they're satisfied with these sad little crumbs and
2) the part that really turns them on is the "forbidden" aspect.
And this is partly because of institutionalized sexism, yes (let's put it all on women! Women R Dirty! We R Clean!) but -also- because of internalized sex-negativity. (they go together like chocolate and peanut butter, albeit far less appetizing). all that shame-loading takes its toll. bad boys! bad for lusting! bad!! Dirty dirty! Don't touch that! Don't look at that! Don't even THINK that!
(we were speaking yesterday about how of course women and sexual minorities get this shit multiplied doubleplusungood; but that doesn't mean the hetboyz are exempt).
So actually, the "thrill" is because, paradoxically, it's...safer that way. To at least keep the -reminder- that you know you're not supposed to be enjoying this, not -really.- Bad boy is also good boy. Have your stale Twinkie and eat it too. Furtively. In the dark. Then say a few Hail Mary's or what have you, get yourself cleaned up, and, momentarily buoyed by the tiny orgasm afterglow and a few cups of watery coffee, go on to your completely unoppressive job. or whatever it is you do, which is no doubt filled with joy and sunshine and happiness.
At the same time, of course, bad boys bad boys are indulged in countless other ways, heartily encouraged to -not- take responsibility for their own shit, (this is the reward for sticking with all the miserable macho training). Feelings? Including "inappropriate" lustiness and shame thereof, and vulnerability and fear of their own sexuality and other scary shit like that?Hell, we don't have 'em. *belch* Dump that crap on the women. That's what they're there for.
So of course they get their thrill from the idea that the "girls" really don't want this, or wouldn't want to do this otherwise; this way it's *just daring enough.* The idea that the women might actually LIKE being sexxy for their own sake, well, that's a bridge too damn far. That wasn't in the script.
Because, and this is the point; if -the women- aren't acting like it's really shameful, (this was the purported complaint, after all, in the article), then what are the men supposed to do with all that shame? Why, why, they might actually have to...own that it's theirs.
That would be painful.
And the reward for all that stultifying macho bullshit was -not having to feel that pain.- Otherwise what was the point of, well, pretty much everything?
So, as we see here, what tends to happen is, they push the woman back to a place of visible shame and degradation and misery; -so they don't have to go there themselves.-
and, oh yeah, the women. Well, the women. They're mostly drunk and underage and it's really grody that people find this shit amusing.
But as for the women themselves? Well, no doubt with this story surfacing, there are others like it where it came from.
That still doesn't exclude the possibility that ZOMG yes, Virginia, some "straight" women might actually -like- making out with each other, either because the kiss itself or the exhibitionism of doing it in front of a guy or a camera buzzes their naughty bits.
And, y'know -what?- Even if they did? That is totally their right. And it -still- doesn't justify or excuse or even really -explain- rape. At all.
They are and were entitled to say "yes" -and- say "no," and have both honored. Without being abused in any way. Same as the rest of us.
Which is kind of feminism 101, wouldn't you say?