...here specifically referring to clothing choices and other personal adornments, although it applies at least as well to sex acts, I expect.
Pretty much everyone talks as though the only thing that matters is how it looks. Not how it feels, emotionally or--especially--in a tactile sense. And forget about taste or smell.
Which is common enough for many of us in this our modern woild. We tend to favor sight over the other senses, by far. Thing about doing this too much is, it tends to be rather distancing; the other senses (hearing is debatable I suppose) are far more intimate.
And it also suggests that many of us are out of touch with our own bodies.
Which, if it's the case, hellya sure you're gonna be influenced heavily if not completely by "society" in your "choices," one way or t'other. How's it look? Well, how's it look to whom? Other people are gonna see me, right?
At minimum, if you say, well, I love the way the blue of this brings out my eyes; or even, it reminds me of the ocean and makes me feel calm; someone can still go, well, someone else told you how great you look in blue (or whatever).
But if you can say to yourself, you know, I love the way the breeze feels on my newly-shaven bare legs/chest/head; or, I actually like the pressure of my push-up bra/corset/tight jeans, it makes me feel secure somehow; or, I am wearing this kerchief because it keeps the hair out of my face, and I really dislike the sensation of hair tendrils blowing in my face; or, ...well, that makes it a bit more difficult for someone else to come in and tell you what your experience is.
Or does it?
What does it mean to "like" or "want" something, anyway?